This morning I had breakfast with a fellow who is going through a similar crisis as myself. He is reducing the quantity of his friends for more quality.
In pursuing minimalism, I've decided to apply the same concepts to my personal life. I've decided that people who treat me as though I'm somehow a lesser person don't belong in my life. Because of that, I have very few people I can talk to. Actually, I was simply looking for a scapegoat. I had just as many people that I talked to after this change as before it.
After our breakfast, I thanked this man for the decision to hang out. He then said something that really struck me. He said, "It was either hanging out with you or crushing loneliness". I realized, as soon as he said that, that "crushing loneliness" was exactly what I had been feeling lately.
After this thought, I had a realization. After every life decision there will be some changes. These changes will sometimes seem absolutely miserable and make you look deep inside yourself, but in the end, they make you better. It's not your life they make better, it's you. I decided to sort out the friends who didn't make me feel special from the ones who did. In doing so, I've become extremely lonely, but I have also opened up the way for some amazing people to walk into my life.
In pursuing minimalism, I've decided to apply the same concepts to my personal life. I've decided that people who treat me as though I'm somehow a lesser person don't belong in my life. Because of that, I have very few people I can talk to. Actually, I was simply looking for a scapegoat. I had just as many people that I talked to after this change as before it.
After our breakfast, I thanked this man for the decision to hang out. He then said something that really struck me. He said, "It was either hanging out with you or crushing loneliness". I realized, as soon as he said that, that "crushing loneliness" was exactly what I had been feeling lately.
After this thought, I had a realization. After every life decision there will be some changes. These changes will sometimes seem absolutely miserable and make you look deep inside yourself, but in the end, they make you better. It's not your life they make better, it's you. I decided to sort out the friends who didn't make me feel special from the ones who did. In doing so, I've become extremely lonely, but I have also opened up the way for some amazing people to walk into my life.
